what advice would you give to a parent finding out?

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Would probably ignore it, personally. Would rather my parents know as little as possible about what I do for fun, lol. Otherwise, its entirely dependant on how they've reacted.

If they're cross for some reason, I'd wait and see if they get over it before approaching them.

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I'd say that parenting is not necessarily about 100% unconditional love. It's more like 99.5% unconditional love. If you just learned that your child has a sexual interest that is harmless to partners and fairly common / conventional to boot? Well it's important to remember that the discomfort of learning this about your child is no more unpleasant than your child learning about any kinks that YOU have. Leave it alone and let your kid have his/her own sex life.

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Hi there,

I agree with the others. Being caught or in other ways being ‘found out’ is most likely incredibly embarrassing for your child (just think about how it would have been for yourself if your parents found out), so your ‘job’ as a parent would be to take away as much of this embarrassement as possible with the aim of not making your child feel weird.
Probably the best way to do this would be trying to act as if not having noticed anything unusual, or if this is impossible not to put much emphasis on the situation, and thereby sort of signal that it isn’t so weird that it is worth making any fuzz about.
What you definitely should not do would be to start a longer ‘educational speech’. This would just add to the embarrassement and ensure that your child will be driven (further) into secrecy and a feeling of being weird. It would probably also cause your child to never talk with you or seek your advice about any sexual issue.

For some odd reason children almost always regard their parents as kind of non-sexual beings, even though this of course is completely illogical due to the fact that something must have caused the children to be born. This image to some extend works the other way around as well, and all in all it is a good thing, because it prevents sexual issues between parents and their children. It may even be biologically founded. However it has the sideeffect that sexual issues are not easy for neither children or parents to talk about even when this is needed.

All in all I think it is better to leave the initiative to the children as much as possible when it comes to sexual issues - kind of at a ‘need to know basis’, but at the same time not make it a taboo. It is a delicate balance, but nobody ever promised us that being parents would be a piece of cake. We gave our own children a good book at what we thought was the right time in life, saying something like it being a book they ought to read as it might be both interesting and useful. This way we tried to show them that we weren’t all unfamiliar with the issue, but also that we respected it to be something private. As you can probably imagine the book didn’t say anything specific about balloons, but it did of course mention what could be called sexual deviations in general. I have the idea that it helped them along, but we have only rarely talked about sexual issues with our children, and the few times it has been them asking something or seeking advice.
Balloons have never been brought up in any way connected to sexual issues btw.

As a conclusion I think the best to do if you stumble across your child ‘looning’ would be to downplay it as much as possible. It is actually none of your business, and the best you can do is to try to not create a feeling of it being weird. It is private - and something you more or less ruined by stumbling into it. You are actually an intruder, so maybe just say ‘Sorry!’ And close the door, just as you would so if you had stumbled into a more common sexual situation like masturbating or making love. Maybe it would also be a good idea to learn knocking on their door before going in.....

I think I have babbled enough now, and as I probably not added much to what has already been said I better end.

Anyway Thank you for reading my posting.

Sincerely
Susie

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well, my mum caught me watching balloon videos a few months ago, so i had to explain all about my interests to her... but luckily for me, she took it really well! she explained to me that it was entirely harmless and wasn't that weird at all, and definitely not to worry about it. she even let me keep some balloons up in my room without asking any questions, and aside from a few odd jokes it's never brought up in conversation. i think this is the best line to take if you're a parent, supportive, understanding and also non-interference because as others have mentioned, it's ultimately none of your business.

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Ultimately, it depends on how the parent "found out". Did they walk-in on someone masturbating with a balloon? Was someone caught watching balloon-erotica on the internet, or have you been caught blowing-up/playing with/popping a balloon whilst naked?

In theory, most parents will freak-out initially, but whilst we would all hope they wouldn't do that, the fact remains most will - sadly.

Sometimes, the best policy is simply to say as little as possible, and - next time - to be more careful, if you are someone with a balloon fetish still living with family/parents. Far better, in my opinion, to have the fetish and keep it secret from those you don't want to know about it, than to have that secret discovered, and have it lead to all sorts of embarrasing discussions.

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I personally got caught on different occasions once with my grandma I was watching a older Tara Bush video on a desk top little to know she had snuck up behind me and told the whole family at our next gathering it didn’t a stop me by any means another time in my teens again our door didn’t have a lock that worked we’d use an old brick I remember my mom walking in I had a big 16” red balloon between my legs and I was going to town she opened the door to my surprise the door slammed real quick after that and not a word was spoken after that, another occasion was staying at my cousins house had left my phone open and they went through it finding pictures of my girlfriend at the time sitting and straddling a balloon yea it was awkward but it’s what I like let them have their opinions. So my advice would be don’t let anyone come between what makes you happy and truly who you are. Everyone has opinions everyone has a kink or something that they don’t share with everyone and that’s okay life is to short to worry what others think as long as it’s not hurting you or anyone else keep looning!!

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I don't know about balloons but I can say it has to be handled way better that the way my mother found out about my inner tube fetish. I was told im everything in the book from gross to completely disgusting now I started playing with them at 13 all I knew is I loved how they feel again my body and I hated having clothes on. If and when she caught me she would do everything possible to take it from me even though I was naked once successfully getting it but not before I cum all over it rubbed cum all it and myself then came again leaving cum all over ive even ate a lot of cum in pure defiance. Today I still play with my inner tubes and a life size silicone sex doll, even my wife plays with my tubes

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I agree I addressed this when I was younger learning how to play on inner tubes today I have a sex doll and I would not have a clue how to explain it to my kids of I have a inner tube beside our bed with cum tracks all over it. In today's world kids are being taught about this and ways to have sexual relationship with a person or anything

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Don’t think I got caught but as a careless kid I’m sure I left clues.. my dad had this emergency tyre inflater bottle.. I’m sure he wondered why it was empty sitting next to an over inflated inner tube lol..

This thread should also be for partners finding out. I’m sure not everyone here has told there partner about the fetish. I’m sure some have found out one way or another.

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I would say its innocent fun so just let it be. I personally experienced both being punished and having balloons taken away from me then a few years later having my stepmother play with and pop them with me. Both only deepened my fetish but I feel like being punished was worse. You can read my two stories are posted under the being punished popping with someone else thread. I wonder if I'm the only one to experience situations like those.

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I experienced both an accepting stepmother who joined in on and encouraged my balloon popping and gave me my alone time with them as well as being punished and made to feel naughty. Both deepened my fetish but being punished was worse. You can read my 2 different experiences in the punished/popping with someone else thread. I would say just let it be or be understanding as least.

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Agree my fetish only intensified every time I was caught and I swear it was like all they did was look for me naked gorgeous tube between my legs especially when I would play with a tube in the tub I said I will never stop doing tubes the bigger the better

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Did your parents allow you to continue? How did they react?

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The stories about your stepmom were 10/10!