Hello fellow looners.
My GF and I have been together for a long time, it will be 7 years this spring. We have a good life together, a solid loving relationship with a partner that I love. However there is an issue, which involves the balloons. She knows about my fetish and have done for a long time. In the beginning she participated, and I though she enjoyed how it turned me on. Later I have found out that she did not really care for it and felt like I got turned more on by the balloons than her. This naturally makes her insecure, and in her words I prefer balloons over her.
I know this is difficult and I have tried to explain to her how the balloons make me feel - its hard to explain but she sees that I am way more turned on when it is fetish sex than when it is vanilla. I am honest, a fetish is a special turn on and I cannot change that. I have tried to make her feel appreciated, wanted, desired and what not but it always ends with her complaining about how she is not good enough - I know this is a difficult topic and she also suffers a bit from low self esteem which does not make it easy.
Over the last 12 months I have gradually removed balloons from our sexlife and kept it as a solo activity. She is kinda happy with how it is and our sexlife is to me now a bit boring.
So here goes my main question how do you deal with sexual incompatibility? I love her, she really is a great partner to spend my life with, but sexually where there once was a fire there is now hardly a spark. I know it is a lot to ask for a GF to be a looner, and I cannot impose the fetish on her, but I was hoping that she would see the fetish as something that could just bring our relatioship closer and improve our sexlife. But hey - now I am back to finding balloontime when she is out of the house and then going all in with looning for a short while. I dont know why i posted this but I guess I'd like to hear if anyone else have had it like this.
How did you deal with sexual incompatibility ?
Cheers
My GF and I have been together for a long time, it will be 7 years this spring. We have a good life together, a solid loving relationship with a partner that I love. However there is an issue, which involves the balloons. She knows about my fetish and have done for a long time. In the beginning she participated, and I though she enjoyed how it turned me on. Later I have found out that she did not really care for it and felt like I got turned more on by the balloons than her. This naturally makes her insecure, and in her words I prefer balloons over her.
I know this is difficult and I have tried to explain to her how the balloons make me feel - its hard to explain but she sees that I am way more turned on when it is fetish sex than when it is vanilla. I am honest, a fetish is a special turn on and I cannot change that. I have tried to make her feel appreciated, wanted, desired and what not but it always ends with her complaining about how she is not good enough - I know this is a difficult topic and she also suffers a bit from low self esteem which does not make it easy.
Over the last 12 months I have gradually removed balloons from our sexlife and kept it as a solo activity. She is kinda happy with how it is and our sexlife is to me now a bit boring.
So here goes my main question how do you deal with sexual incompatibility? I love her, she really is a great partner to spend my life with, but sexually where there once was a fire there is now hardly a spark. I know it is a lot to ask for a GF to be a looner, and I cannot impose the fetish on her, but I was hoping that she would see the fetish as something that could just bring our relatioship closer and improve our sexlife. But hey - now I am back to finding balloontime when she is out of the house and then going all in with looning for a short while. I dont know why i posted this but I guess I'd like to hear if anyone else have had it like this.
How did you deal with sexual incompatibility ?
Cheers
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