Re: To scared to tell or ask
Hey don't worry, you don't need those fancy girls or men, just focus on how much you are winning by not having a girlfriend or boyfriend. You will have extra time, money, space, privacy, etc. With this line of thought, I've been single for a little over 10 years. I like girls and women sure, but I don't have what's required to be in a relationship, and most of the time, I don't care or need to care. I'm not asexual neither aromantic, just have some self-esteem problems.
Also, you don't have to be afraid, better be proud, people want what they can't get. If you make yourself unmatchable, undatable, you will be like the special prize in the cereal box, unless you lose the drive to be in a relationship.
If that is the case Welcome to Singleland, we have bigger individual portions of everything. And yes it hurts but is like chronic pain, by being always in pain you stop noticing it and it seems to disappear, and once you get used to it is a pretty cozy place to be. And hey being single doesn't mean being alone, don't forget all we are here are a community and I'm sure you have other friends, so yeah you are not alone.
One last note, the next time you date (if you do), use what has already happened to you in advance. Tell the girl your fetish and what these other girls did to you, the truth about all and everything, and how you can't manage another girl doing the same after so much time, better early than after 2 or more years.
Hey don't worry, you don't need those fancy girls or men, just focus on how much you are winning by not having a girlfriend or boyfriend. You will have extra time, money, space, privacy, etc. With this line of thought, I've been single for a little over 10 years. I like girls and women sure, but I don't have what's required to be in a relationship, and most of the time, I don't care or need to care. I'm not asexual neither aromantic, just have some self-esteem problems.
Also, you don't have to be afraid, better be proud, people want what they can't get. If you make yourself unmatchable, undatable, you will be like the special prize in the cereal box, unless you lose the drive to be in a relationship.
If that is the case Welcome to Singleland, we have bigger individual portions of everything. And yes it hurts but is like chronic pain, by being always in pain you stop noticing it and it seems to disappear, and once you get used to it is a pretty cozy place to be. And hey being single doesn't mean being alone, don't forget all we are here are a community and I'm sure you have other friends, so yeah you are not alone.
One last note, the next time you date (if you do), use what has already happened to you in advance. Tell the girl your fetish and what these other girls did to you, the truth about all and everything, and how you can't manage another girl doing the same after so much time, better early than after 2 or more years.
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