A Not-So-Short, and Not-So-Polite Message To All The Hetero Men Of This Forum!
Gents,
Firstly, apologies in advance, as there's some swearing in this post. This is necesary, and I want all of you reading this to know, why I have said what I have, by the end of this post.
I have sad news for you... It seems some of you are going back to your Neanderthalic ways, and that saddens and angers me hugely.
In the last couple of days (April 2019), there have been two posts, discussing "what might happen when balloons are left behind", and both were from male forum users. I'm NOT going to link to these posts/threads, but I have one thing to say...
...Gents, this is NOT cool or acceptable!
I know that none of you mean anything by these posts - or, at least, I hope to God you don't - but as a heterosexual man, and as a balloon-fetishist myself too, I cannot sit by and watch others bring us all down like this.
And, no, I am NOT KIDDING either!
Look, if you are a single or unattached male reading this, let me explain some stuff here to you. Stuff you need to know, because it seems even in 2019, some of you still don't seem to understand about boundaries, about harrasment, about covert and overt predatory sexual behaviour, and even, about criminal acts!
Anytime you leave a balloon behind, anywhere, whether it's been blown-up, or uninflated; and irrespective of WHY you are doing so, you are littering - plain and simple. You are leaving behind something, that someone else is having to waste their precious time on cleaning-up. If you honestly think this is cool and clever, then I'm hear to burst that myth, well-and-truly, once-and-for-all.
It's NOT cool, nor clever, and is nothing more than littering!
What you are doing is a pain, for all the women and men who work as paid/unpaid/volunteer cleaning staff, in parks, towns, shopping precincts, hotels, and any other public space! It's a blight on society. It's a blight on nature, and to wildlife. And if you don't believe me, look at this:
Please Click Here!
If you think this is fine, and the image above didn't upset you in the slightest, then feel free to ignore every single thing I say. And the fact it features a foil balloon, not a latex one, makes no difference. It's still littering!
However, what you are doing when you leave a balloon behind, is NOT fun, NOT sexy, NOT cool, NOT original, and NOT fun! In fact, it's downright seedy!
I know what you are like, as I am one of you as well. We all have our desires, and wishes, and fantasies about what someone (of any gender) might do, if they found a balloon we'd left behind. Would they take it home? Would they blow-it-up? Will they pop it or keep it? Would the balloon make them into a looner too?
The answer to all of these, is a huge "no"!
If, and it's a huge if, someone finds it, they might take it home. They might pop it. They might keep it. There's a one-in-a-trillion chance, they may think of it as a sex toy/object, but you won't be around to know. And I've seen comments from others on this Forum, where others have said that they leave ballons around public places, then watch to see what happens, and some of you follow!
Holy Christ, are you f***ing kidding me?! Men, this is - in no uncertain terms - absolutely f***ing wrong, and out-of-order!
What you are doing is stepping into the realms of voyeurism, trespassing, and even stalking, and rightly or wrongly, that's all dodgy-as-hell, and wrong, no matter what your reasons are!
I'm sorry, but that kind of behaviour, no matter what the reasons or motivations may be, are indefensible, odious and wrong on every level humanly imaginable! And I'm not having it in this Forum! It's NOT right!
People, these posts are insidious, and degrading! They degrade you! They degrade me! They degrade other men (because it is predominantly men who are doing this, in the first place), and you are degrading everyone of all genders! It's indefensible behaviour, and if people think I am overblowing this out of all proportions, I assure you I am not.
This kind of wretched, sexual behaviour is tantamount to unacceptable sexual conduct! And, again, I am NOT f***ing kidding around here!
You are deliberately provoking people into trying to do something without their permission, so you can get a sexual kick out of it, or use it as masturbatory fodder at a later date! That is completely unacceptable, and NO ONE should ever be partaking in this, without mutual consent of all the other parties involved.
And this is the crux of the matter: consent!
Many of you have spoken in this very Forum, about having your "secret" discovered accidentally; of being "outed" by someone, and of the feelings of devastation, embarrasement, and crippling emotional pain you all felt when someone (family, friend or other) found out that you were a balloon-fetishist, and made that knowledge public, without your permission, nor approval.
Remember how you felt? Remember how devastating that made you feel?
What you are doing to others, is akin to that! You are doing something, to someone you don't know; who hasn't given their permission or approval, and you are using them for your own sexual kicks, without their consent!
It's NOT on, and I WON'T tolerate it, nor allow it to be tolerated by anyone in this Forum - no matter who you are, where you live, what gender you are, or anything else.
It's wrong! End of! No ifs', but's, or maybe's about it! It. Is. Wrong!
I cannot stress this enough! If there isn't consent, you are playing a very dangerous game, which - in some countries - could lead you to being arrested, and potentially opens-you-up to being put on the Sex Offenders Register!
I SHIT YOU NOT!
There are legal cases, past and pending in many countries around Europe, and the United States, that have dealt with "unwanted sexualised behaviour" from men towards women (as it is usually men who do it, and usually women who are on the receiving end of this behaviour). The men thought they were just "having a laugh" or "having a bit of fun", but as far as the law was concerned, they weren't. And these men were punished, had their names attached to the Sex Offenders Register in their respectiver countries, and in one case - which happened at the University I currently work at - that person now has their name easily Google-able, and when you do, the first page is full of stories of press and media reports of their crime!
That individual, was in their early 20's, and has essentially now blacklisted themselves from any decent job; any kind of chance of getting a mortgage or finding someone who will be comfortable being friends or developing a romance with them, because their name is synonymous with a sex crime.
Now, this isn't rare! These kinds of cases are becoming more and more regular, all over the globe! The rise of the #MeToo and #Everyday Sexism hashtags, aren't just for feminists, nor just about feminists. They apply to you men as well!
Guys, you need to learn this stuff now! What you think is a fun, frivolous act, could be interpreted by others, or by the law, as a pattern of behaviour that could truly f*** your life up!
So, I ask you, all of you, PLEASE THINK CAREFULLY BEFORE YOU PARTICIPATE OR ACT ON these kinds of (supposedly) trivial acts! The next name in the press, may be yours, if you don't think about it.
Apologies, but this had to be said. I simply can't stand seeing people do this kind of thing. It pees me off hugely, and it's inappropriate!
DON'T DO IT! DON'T LEAVE BALLOONS BEHIND FOR ANYONE IN A PUBLIC SPACE, FOR ANY REASONS, IF YOU ARE DOING SO WITHOUT THEIR KNOWLEDGE OR PERMISSION
Okay, rant over with!
Firstly, apologies in advance, as there's some swearing in this post. This is necesary, and I want all of you reading this to know, why I have said what I have, by the end of this post.
I have sad news for you... It seems some of you are going back to your Neanderthalic ways, and that saddens and angers me hugely.
In the last couple of days (April 2019), there have been two posts, discussing "what might happen when balloons are left behind", and both were from male forum users. I'm NOT going to link to these posts/threads, but I have one thing to say...
...Gents, this is NOT cool or acceptable!
I know that none of you mean anything by these posts - or, at least, I hope to God you don't - but as a heterosexual man, and as a balloon-fetishist myself too, I cannot sit by and watch others bring us all down like this.
And, no, I am NOT KIDDING either!
Look, if you are a single or unattached male reading this, let me explain some stuff here to you. Stuff you need to know, because it seems even in 2019, some of you still don't seem to understand about boundaries, about harrasment, about covert and overt predatory sexual behaviour, and even, about criminal acts!
Anytime you leave a balloon behind, anywhere, whether it's been blown-up, or uninflated; and irrespective of WHY you are doing so, you are littering - plain and simple. You are leaving behind something, that someone else is having to waste their precious time on cleaning-up. If you honestly think this is cool and clever, then I'm hear to burst that myth, well-and-truly, once-and-for-all.
It's NOT cool, nor clever, and is nothing more than littering!
What you are doing is a pain, for all the women and men who work as paid/unpaid/volunteer cleaning staff, in parks, towns, shopping precincts, hotels, and any other public space! It's a blight on society. It's a blight on nature, and to wildlife. And if you don't believe me, look at this:
Please Click Here!
If you think this is fine, and the image above didn't upset you in the slightest, then feel free to ignore every single thing I say. And the fact it features a foil balloon, not a latex one, makes no difference. It's still littering!
However, what you are doing when you leave a balloon behind, is NOT fun, NOT sexy, NOT cool, NOT original, and NOT fun! In fact, it's downright seedy!
I know what you are like, as I am one of you as well. We all have our desires, and wishes, and fantasies about what someone (of any gender) might do, if they found a balloon we'd left behind. Would they take it home? Would they blow-it-up? Will they pop it or keep it? Would the balloon make them into a looner too?
The answer to all of these, is a huge "no"!
If, and it's a huge if, someone finds it, they might take it home. They might pop it. They might keep it. There's a one-in-a-trillion chance, they may think of it as a sex toy/object, but you won't be around to know. And I've seen comments from others on this Forum, where others have said that they leave ballons around public places, then watch to see what happens, and some of you follow!
Holy Christ, are you f***ing kidding me?! Men, this is - in no uncertain terms - absolutely f***ing wrong, and out-of-order!
What you are doing is stepping into the realms of voyeurism, trespassing, and even stalking, and rightly or wrongly, that's all dodgy-as-hell, and wrong, no matter what your reasons are!
I'm sorry, but that kind of behaviour, no matter what the reasons or motivations may be, are indefensible, odious and wrong on every level humanly imaginable!
And I'm not having it in this Forum! It's NOT right!People, these posts are insidious, and degrading! They degrade you! They degrade me! They degrade other men (because it is predominantly men who are doing this, in the first place), and you are degrading everyone of all genders! It's indefensible behaviour, and if people think I am overblowing this out of all proportions, I assure you I am not.
This kind of wretched, sexual behaviour is tantamount to unacceptable sexual conduct!
And, again, I am NOT f***ing kidding around here!You are deliberately provoking people into trying to do something without their permission, so you can get a sexual kick out of it, or use it as masturbatory fodder at a later date! That is completely unacceptable, and NO ONE should ever be partaking in this, without mutual consent of all the other parties involved.
And this is the crux of the matter: consent!
Many of you have spoken in this very Forum, about having your "secret" discovered accidentally; of being "outed" by someone, and of the feelings of devastation, embarrasement, and crippling emotional pain you all felt when someone (family, friend or other) found out that you were a balloon-fetishist, and made that knowledge public, without your permission, nor approval.
Remember how you felt? Remember how devastating that made you feel?
What you are doing to others, is akin to that! You are doing something, to someone you don't know; who hasn't given their permission or approval, and you are using them for your own sexual kicks, without their consent!
It's NOT on, and I WON'T tolerate it, nor allow it to be tolerated by anyone in this Forum - no matter who you are, where you live, what gender you are, or anything else.
It's wrong! End of! No ifs', but's, or maybe's about it! It. Is. Wrong!
I cannot stress this enough! If there isn't consent, you are playing a very dangerous game, which - in some countries - could lead you to being arrested, and potentially opens-you-up to being put on the Sex Offenders Register!
I SHIT YOU NOT!
There are legal cases, past and pending in many countries around Europe, and the United States, that have dealt with "unwanted sexualised behaviour" from men towards women (as it is usually men who do it, and usually women who are on the receiving end of this behaviour). The men thought they were just "having a laugh" or "having a bit of fun", but as far as the law was concerned, they weren't. And these men were punished, had their names attached to the Sex Offenders Register in their respectiver countries, and in one case - which happened at the University I currently work at - that person now has their name easily Google-able, and when you do, the first page is full of stories of press and media reports of their crime!
That individual, was in their early 20's, and has essentially now blacklisted themselves from any decent job; any kind of chance of getting a mortgage or finding someone who will be comfortable being friends or developing a romance with them, because their name is synonymous with a sex crime.
Now, this isn't rare! These kinds of cases are becoming more and more regular, all over the globe! The rise of the #MeToo and #Everyday Sexism hashtags, aren't just for feminists, nor just about feminists. They apply to you men as well!
Guys, you need to learn this stuff now! What you think is a fun, frivolous act, could be interpreted by others, or by the law, as a pattern of behaviour that could truly f*** your life up!
So, I ask you, all of you, PLEASE THINK CAREFULLY BEFORE YOU PARTICIPATE OR ACT ON these kinds of (supposedly) trivial acts! The next name in the press, may be yours, if you don't think about it.
Apologies, but this had to be said. I simply can't stand seeing people do this kind of thing. It pees me off hugely, and it's inappropriate!
DON'T DO IT! DON'T LEAVE BALLOONS BEHIND FOR ANYONE IN A PUBLIC SPACE, FOR ANY REASONS, IF YOU ARE DOING SO WITHOUT THEIR KNOWLEDGE OR PERMISSION
Okay, rant over with!
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