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Old 23-08-2020, 05:35 AM
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This is a common theme among, especially, poppers: an unusual fear of sudden and loud noises at least one point in their [usually] earlier parts of their lives.

I'm just wondering if psychology actually has a WORD OR TERM for this, where some kind of actual FEAR becomes "repurposed" or at least becomes or leads to some aspect of erotic arousal. I would assume that such a term exists. Just curious.

Obviously, it's some word other than "fetish" which is not at all specific. Most fetishes, such as foot or hair fetishes, or for that matter fetishes for vinyl pool toys, or Spandex, certainly aren't likely based from any kind of original fear.

I'm sure it IS a concept that's known, though. Similarly, because it's the very same concept, I read somewhere once (long before there was an Internet which developed its huge and weird cesspool of "fake news" and all) that many mountain-climbers originally had fears of heights.

I think there's more to this, than people merely wanting to conquer their fears.
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Old 24-08-2020, 07:40 AM
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Old 25-08-2020, 02:22 AM
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Originally Posted by frankfrank View Post
I'm just wondering if psychology actually has a WORD OR TERM for this, where some kind of actual FEAR becomes "repurposed" or at least becomes or leads to some aspect of erotic arousal. I would assume that such a term exists. Just curious.
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I asked a psychologist friend if there was a diagnostic term for the phenomenon of a phobia becoming a source of sexual arousal. He said yes, they often use the term "conversion" to describe the psychological process by which people change fear into pleasure. In essence a phobia is converted into a fetish through a chemical process in the brain.

He says that, left to its own devices, our brain actively seeks pleasure over pain-- actually that is a very Freudian idea called "the pleasure principle".

In order to obtain and sustain the dopamine hit of pleasure we build neural pathways that convert chronic fear into pleasurable experiences whenever possible. I guess you could call it self-motivated behavior modification, driven by the hard-wired goal of minimizing pain and maximizing pleasure. My psychologist friend maintains that such behavior exists in virtually all mentally healthy people.

As you intimate in your note, there are tons of paths that lead people to develop fetishes. A phobia is only one such path. But it is generally believed that some kind of traumatic event is at the root of fetishes in general. The example my friend spoke about is the common fetish that many men have for nylon stockings and high heeled shoes. Psychologists have long speculated that this fetish is likely formed when, for example, a small child clings to their mother's leg in response to a threatening situation (i.e., a traumatic event). The reassuring feel of the stockings and vision of the shoes are imprinted along with the intense triggering trauma. Our brain separates the pain of trauma from the safe, comforting, pleasurable aspects of the experience. Hence the conversion of a traumatic memory from chronic fear into pleasurable fetish.

Human behavior is not easy to predict nor to understand -- there are an infinity of variables. But I think I buy my friend's hypothesis, and he insists that there are masses of literature and case studies to support it.

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Old 30-08-2020, 04:46 PM
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Hello Iím Ava

Completely balloon phobic as a child and still am to some extent. Definitely a non popper and donít like situations with balloons when I am not in control. Wondering if anyone out there is similar?

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Old 30-08-2020, 05:04 PM
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Hi welcome, although i consider myself a semi popper, i really dont care to be in a situation where there are balloons around people it just gives me anxiety, if i want a balloon to bust i want to be the ine to do it, if that makes any sense
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Old 30-08-2020, 05:08 PM
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Hey Ava! Welcome!!

I'm exactly the same as you, if you ever wanna chat. Feel free to message me ☺️
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Old 15-09-2020, 10:20 PM
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Hello, I call myself hansdudl (I hope nobody has such a name in real life )

I am a 22 years old looner from Germany and I try to integrate my balloon fetish in a healthy, nondigital, partner(or due Corona: Tinder)-based manner in my life...
Or at least to learn how to fully(&ruthlessly?) stand up for my sexual orientation towards others.
I hope to catch some inspirations about how to be a more self-confident looner/maybe some hints about looning in a shared appartment (and maybe to find some companions, who are no NoFap-fanatics and still want to reduce their digital porn consumption)
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Hi There! My name is Rosie and I absolutely LOVE balloons and inflatables. I live in the state of Georgia but I don't wanna say where. I hope we can respect that. I'm a lesbian, I'm also a little. I have always liked balloons as a child but it started out as a phobia and my family used to tease and force me to like balloons because I was "embarrassing" them. I remember trying so hard to convince everyone that I didn't like balloons but the interest was always there. I love playing with balloons now, especially blowing them up. It makes so happy! I love helium balloons too. I'm a semi popper too! So I'm happy to make new looner friends.

Ps.. I make looner erotica too! but I don't know where to post that.
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Old 17-09-2020, 05:42 PM
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Hi luckygirl , welcome to the forum,
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Old 20-09-2020, 09:58 PM
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Greetings all!

Gay dude, mid-30s here. Have a HUGE kink for balloons and inflates(beach balls being my fav). Been into it since I was pretty young, started out being just beach balls, but things have grown a bit over the years to include some pool toys and balloons.

Currently live in South Florida.

Look forward to chatting with you guys
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