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Ideally I need the advice of a homosexual man coz heís gonna understand this.


Iím open about what I balloons are to me and Iíve built up this idea that Iím madly after a girlfriend because I am.

My concern however is that I think I LOVE my best mate who is male and currently sleeping in a bed opposite me. He knows I love balloons and Iíve confessed I may like him in a joking way but Iím not joking.

I know he dosenít like me in the same way and itís killing me. Just seeing him in shorts makes me wanna rip em off and go to town on his ass. If I come clean I know for a fact our friendship will end yet keeping it inside is murdering me.

Somebody please help me!
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Whilst I'm not homosexual myself, the simple issue is this: DON'T DO IT!

At the moment you have a good friendship with this friend of yours. The fact you know he doesn't like you, is all you need to be concerned with.

Don't try pushing your feelings onto him, no matter what you may be feeling. All you will do is end-up either being hugely embarrassed, and make things difficult with him, or he will (more than likely) want nothing more to do with you, and you won't be able to unring the bell you've just rung.

You need to realise that when it comes to love, you CANNOT afford to be selfish. It takes two-to-tango, and if one person has no interest in the relationship, then you have to respect their wishes.

If you go against their wishes, the only person who will be worst off, is you.

Trust me! Irrespective of sexuality, gender, or anything else, you cannot force someone to love you, as it will destroy any relationship you may already have and only make things worse for you.

You either have to accept that you can't always love who you may wish to love, or find another way to channel those energies, feelings and emotions into something else.

If you absolutely must, it may be worth your time looking at going to a gay sauna, or seeing a male escort, or finding some other similar avenue to take your "lustful" energies and channel them away safely. If you're bisexual, then maybe seeking a girlfriend, or going to see a female escort or massage parlour, may help.

But don't throw-away a friendship over unrequited love, when the other person has told you that they're not interested in you in the same way you are interested in them.

It will backfire on you, and you will feel even worse than you do now!

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I guess you are right. I want to keep my friendship strong and that would only complicate things.

I guess the reason I want him is because heís the first person Iíve known to fully accept me fetish and all. We can tell each other anything and I guess I mistook that and moulded it in my own way.

There will be others. Thanks for the advice BalloonBoyUK. I know you sometimes get shit on this forum but your an ace member who has a lot of insight. I appreciate it.
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Remain friends , and you never know what the future may bring .
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I guess you are right. I want to keep my friendship strong and that would only complicate things.
I'm pleased you've seen why it's better to have a friendship, than try to risk something more, and be hurt.


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I guess the reason I want him is because heís the first person Iíve known to fully accept me fetish and all. We can tell each other anything and I guess I mistook that and moulded it in my own way.
That's completely normal, and I wholly see why you feel like that. We've all been there before: fancied to the hell out of someone, who've been great friends, and those feelings become stronger and more intense. Then we agonise over whether to tell them how we truly feel, only - in almost every case - for it to backfire on us, and to lose the friendship forever.

It's not worth it. Better to have a friend for life who knows you totally, and accepts you totally, then destroy something that special.

You'll find someone. It may be in a few weeks; a few months; a few years, or in ten or twenty years. It will happen, and once you do, you'll realise why it was worth the wait.

I'd always opt to keep a great friendship, over risking telling someone I "loved" them, and see that friendship be ruined forever more.

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Thanks for the advice BalloonBoyUK. [SNIP] your an ace member who has a lot of insight. I appreciate it.
You're welcome. And Thanks for the kind words.
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