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Old 16-05-2019, 12:11 PM
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But i've had a question going around in my mind since we started hanging out. How does she react to balloons?
Don't assume she will like balloons in the way you do. Assume that - like most people - balloons are just fun party objects. Until she confirms otherwise, then don't try and make her like balloons, in the way you do. That plan will potentially backfire - and as we discussed before - you don't want to ruin the friendship. I know she's told you about her interest in BDSM, but that's a huge topic, and until you know more, that doesn't mean she wants to hear about what you are into. Find out more about this, but read on first.


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I was thinking of bringing a balloon with me say that i found it start inflating it and see how she acts. Is this a good idea or should i try something else?
That is a hugely BAD idea! You're already starting things off on the wrong foot. Not only will this be embarrasing to her, but it may well be hugely embarrasing to you too.

You're going about this all wrong. Consider things from her point of view, not just your own. Imagine if a girl asked you out to the cinema, then at some stage during the evening, she starts randonly blowing-up a balloon whilst you are both out-and-about in public. Now, initially, you may find this highly erotic, but then reality will kick-in, and you're going to feel very uncomfortable. The main question you'll be asking is "What does she know about me, and how did she know it?". What happens if you suddenly get a huge erection, and she notices this?

You need to start taking things much, much slower. I know you clearly fancy the heck out of her, but right now, you and her aren't even actual friends. Don't mess things up by trying to get her to fall madly in love with you, when she may have no feelings of any kind towards you - friendship, romance, or anything else.

You've got to start understanding that the way you are approaching this, is all wrong, I'm afraid. You're going to destroy any chance of being friends with her, if your only goal is to eventually fall in love, have sex, and get married, and live a life of balloon-filled bliss.

Slow down!!!

She may already have a boyfriend, or girlfriend. She may have no sexual interest in you or anyone elase at all. She may not be seeking romance, and she may already have plenty of friends too. You need to take things much, much slower, or this is going to backfire on you horrendously, and you'll be hating yourself for ages afterwards, and feel very had about it too.

Right now: get to know her as a friend, and nothing else. Ask her out to the cinema, if you want, but don't take any balloons with you, and don't ask her about balloons either - at all - not even in a surreptitious or discrete manner. You're going to end up ruining things, before they even start.

Also, and without meaning to be rude here, take a cold shower, and stop thinking about what things might happen in the future. Focus on just trying to be friends, and nothing else. Don't try to be boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't try and jump into bed with her, or mention your thing about balloons - yet.

I know you've since discovered that she's into BDSM, and that may be a way to know she's more open-minded about somethings, but don't assume that means she's ready to hear about your thing for balloons.

Take things really slowly. Women like it when men don't pounce, and take things slow. Be a good man: take it slow. You'll enjoy things better, and there's a bigger chance that things will go better for you both, if you do go slowly.

Okay, take care, and good luck!
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Old 16-05-2019, 01:54 PM
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Couldn’t have put it better myself. Slow and steady wins the race. Don’t fantasise too much and make baby steps like, Balloon pBoy said.

Also I may be stupid or ignorant but what is BDSM?
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Old 16-05-2019, 05:30 PM
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All right i may have gotten a little too excited and haven't given enough detail to the situation.
She knows a bit about about me. (except for this of course) I'm not expecting her to love balloons at first i'm kinda expecting her to be understanding of my kinks.
And no way i'm not about to inflate a balloon inside a crowded theater with her besides the theater date fell through.
But you're right i gotta slow down i gotta start thinking with the head on my shoulders not the one in between my legs.
Oh Loon lover BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics.
I got that off of wikipedia so go have a look there if you want more details.
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Old 17-05-2019, 02:44 PM
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I'm not expecting her to love balloons at first i'm kinda expecting her to be understanding of my kinks.
She may be understanding, but then again, she may not know anything of the worlds of looners and balloon-fetishism. Just because she has made one announcement that she enjoys BDSM - which, in itself, is a huge area that could be anything from being mildly spanked, to full-on gags, ropes, chains, and extreme torture, or anything inbetween - doesn't mean she's into anything else, or will be cool with anything else.


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But you're right i gotta slow down i gotta start thinking with the head on my shoulders not the one in between my legs.
I'm so glad you said that. I was tempted to do so, but decided to try and be a little more family-friendly. But we all know from your posts how excited you are about the potential for this relationship, but right now, as it stands, it's not even a friendship. You are going from zero-to-100 miles-an-hour. Become friends first, and stay friends for a good three months at least. Nothing sexual. No hints or enquiries about what she does/doesn't like in the bedroom, and no discussion of what you enjoy/don't enjoy in the bedroom either. Keep it purely platonic. Show her you are a decent man; an honest man; a trustworthy, and patient man.

Only once that's been achieved should you consider asking her to go out on an actual date, of any kind.

Right now, as you said yourself, you're letting your manhood lead you, rather than your head.

Slow down, and enjoy the journey. Don't be in such a rush to get to the destination. Remember, she may not be wanting to get to that same destination as you. And don't forget, if she turns you down for a date, don't pester her for any reasons, or justifications. If she declines, accept that, and just remain friends. Remember, later on down the line, she may find you more attractive and interesting because you stuck around, and didn't act like a "lad" or "geezer" (a chap, usually only interested in a woman, purely to sleep with her), and you may get a second chance to ask her again - at which point, she may be more receptive to things.

Better to have several really great friendships, with people who know you really well (warts-and-all), than to be a lad who only cares for women, if he's getting something out of it.

I'm sure all of us in the Forum wish you well, and do keep us up-to-date, or come back with any further questions, but take things slow, and you will be fine. Don't be pushy with her. Patience usually wins.
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Old 19-05-2019, 01:00 AM
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I forgot about some details about her kink she's more into collar's and being dominant than anything else from what she's told me.
But i got a feeling there's more that's she's not telling which is fine i don't blame her and besides some of my fantasies do involve being dominated by my partner but what she does to me i expect that i can do that in return of course another time.
But im getting ahead of myself i got to sort out some misunderstandings with her friends who are very protective of her.
I'll bring some more updates as things develop.
Thanks for the advice.
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Old 19-05-2019, 07:12 PM
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Leave an unblown balloon in your room when she comes to your home and see how she reacts. If she starts blowing it, you'll have it all started to engage the subject!
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Old 19-05-2019, 08:03 PM
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Yea that's not gonna happen for a while.
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Leave an unblown balloon in your room when she comes to your home and see how she reacts. If she starts blowing it, you'll have it all started to engage the subject!
Umm, NO, don't do that! This is simply NOT the way to try and be friends with someone. It's iffy behaviour, and makes the person doing it look like they've got an agenda - which is exactly what Smothered by tits does NOT want this woman to see him as!

Don't do anything like this at all, unless you want to get a reputation as a weirdo, as you're sending out a message that you only like people of the opposite sex, for one reason.
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Old 31-05-2019, 05:47 AM
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Welp we got into a small argument now she wants nothing to do with me. Oh well you win some you lose some thanks for the advice.
When i start another relationship i may come back to this thread or just start a new one and again thanks for the advice.
I'll use that in future relationships for years to come.
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Welp we got into a small argument now she wants nothing to do with me.
Can I ask, what happened, that got you into such an argument that now she wants nothing to do with you whatsoever? That sounds fairly major to me, as if it was a huge bust-up over something. That suggests to me, that maybe you said or did something, and tried to go from zero-to-100, rather than taking things really slowly and carefully.

You don't have to tell me anything, if you don't want too, but it maybe helpful to you, so that whatever you did, isn't something you repeat in the future.

But I shall leave it to you to decide whether you want to say anything or not. I won't pressure you, though.
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